I went to a lawyer for the first time yesterday. As I sat in his office I thought to myself, why the hell did I not become a lawyer? Where was I on career day when Mr. Lawyer came in and told me that he can charge $250.00 an hour and can charge in increments of 1/10 an hour. How could I have missed the fact that he can charge for phone calls regarding your case? I must have went to the bathroom when he said that he charges $200.00 an hour for his senior partners, $150.00 an hour for his junior partners and $25.00 for his paralegal. I completely missed out on the fact that each change that he makes to a document can cost an additional $100.00.
Makes me want to go back to school and finish my degree. My luck though, I would pass the bar and then decide to work pro bono for those who need but cannot afford a lawyer.
I guess I am lucky that I have not needed to retain a lawyer until this point in my life. I don’t know how anyone except those with money could afford one.
As I sat in my car after the appointment, stunned by the information I just received, I thought, how does the single mother or father of three, afford a lawyer? How do they pay for these services? I am lucky in a way because I have the money I need to pay for an attorney. What do others do that don’t have the money? Maybe they just "fail to appear."
Wednesday, July 25, 2007
Sunday, July 15, 2007
Bat Run Results
On Friday, July 13th I completed my 5th 5K of the summer. I participated in the Austin Bat Run. It was a non chip timed race, so I dont have my exact finishing time. It was somewhere around 38 miutes of so. Not fabulous, but it was also a very different course for me to run. This was a trail course. I had to run on dirt, sand and grass. I have only run on pavement courses. Running on grass was ok but the sand really worked my legs and slowed me down. It was also a very hot run. It was a run around Town Lake and after you made a loop to come back you were running directly into the sun. I thought at one point I was going to pass out because of being overheated but I was fine. This race made me very happy to finish. I crossed the line and I felt so good. That is because halfway through my mind was just saying, "stop." It was saying, "your tired, your legs hurt, your stomach is cramping, who cares if you dont finish." Well I care and I kept going. I am a very happy finisher of the race.
Wednesday, July 04, 2007
5K
Today, I ran the Freedom 5000 5K in Austin Texas. This was my 4th 5K so far. I ran my personal best with a time of 37:48. Its around a 12:06 minute mile. It is good for me but not quite my goal. I want to get to a 30 minute 5K by the end of this year.
I am running my next 5K on July 13th. This one is a night time 5K in Austin called the Bat Run. Austin has a large colony of bats and the race is set at night so everyone can watch the bats fly out from the Congress Ave bridge by the end of the race. That is why I have considered getting a bat tattoo. It is a symbol of my time in Texas as I make my way back home. Who knows.
Hopefully I will train all week for this one and beat my 37:48 personal best time.
Wish me luck!
I am running my next 5K on July 13th. This one is a night time 5K in Austin called the Bat Run. Austin has a large colony of bats and the race is set at night so everyone can watch the bats fly out from the Congress Ave bridge by the end of the race. That is why I have considered getting a bat tattoo. It is a symbol of my time in Texas as I make my way back home. Who knows.
Hopefully I will train all week for this one and beat my 37:48 personal best time.
Wish me luck!
Sunday, July 01, 2007
You dont know Jack about Eve
Post and let me see your answers!
How long have you known me:
Where did we meet:
Do I smoke:
Do I drink:
If so, what my favorite drink:
At the Olive garden what would I order:
What's my favorite food:
What did I want to be when I grew up:
Color of my eyes:
Do I have any siblings:
What's my hobby:
What's my favorite type of music:
What's my favorite movie:
Who is my favorite author:
Name my favorite book:
Where would I like to go on vacation:
What colors are in my closet?
What is the best feature about me:
Any special talents:
What was my mother's nickname for me:
If you and I were stranded on a desert island, what is one thing that I
would bring:
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Where did we meet:
Do I smoke:
Do I drink:
If so, what my favorite drink:
At the Olive garden what would I order:
What's my favorite food:
What did I want to be when I grew up:
Color of my eyes:
Do I have any siblings:
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Where would I like to go on vacation:
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would bring:
Tuesday, June 19, 2007
So Hard to Leave
Why is it so hard to leave
My scripted life waits for me there
A separate piece of me functions faintly
Not whole or happy but a person on auto
Here, I am myself
Alive and brightly colored
Fiery and bold journeys color the tapestry
Full hearted and passionate longings exist
These dual existences drain a soul
Boarding a carriage to another part of my existence
Looking back at what being alive is
I realize why it is so hard to leave...
My scripted life waits for me there
A separate piece of me functions faintly
Not whole or happy but a person on auto
Here, I am myself
Alive and brightly colored
Fiery and bold journeys color the tapestry
Full hearted and passionate longings exist
These dual existences drain a soul
Boarding a carriage to another part of my existence
Looking back at what being alive is
I realize why it is so hard to leave...
Saturday, June 16, 2007
Texas
A friend of mine asked what it is really like to live in Texas. Don't get me wrong, there is a lot of pride in Texas. Maybe its because I come from Massachusetts, but I just don't see what all the hype is about. Hopefully I will be moving back home soon. Until then let me see if I can give you a feeling for the great state.
Texas
It is Hot! Not warm or kind of sunny. Everyday is blazing. Don't turn on the hose and run your hands under it if it has been lying in the sun because it will give you third degree burns, kind of hot.
Thunder storms and tornadoes! Last week I had to leave my office and sit in a room with no windows for 40 minutes because we had a tornado touch down across the street from our building. The thunder is so loud it sets off car alarms and shakes your windows. Lightening strikes are common. We had a man die on a lake a week ago because he did not get off the lake fast enough and lightening hit his fishing rod.
"Turn around don't drown." This saying is repeated over the radio and television each time we have a storm. Rain condenses on the road so much that it will sweep a Dodge Ram pickup off the street. People drown on their street because they got out of their car when it got stuck in the rising water.
Emergency Broadcast SystemThe deafening tone that in MA we often turn down, actually means something in Texas. If you hear that tone you need to get your ass off of any ball field or lake you are on and find some shelter. If not you will end up like the man in the lightening story above.
Texas Shaped Everything. If you are eating a chip shaped like your state, then you must be in Texas. Bathroom sinks, house windows, trash barrels, candy, hair ties, pocketbooks. Whatever it is in Texas, it can be made into the shape of the state.
Words. A shopping cart or carriage is a buggy. A trash barrel is something on the side of your house. The small one under your desk is a basket. "Fixin to" means your about to do something. A "Whoppin" is something you give your child when they misbehave.
FootballHigh school football games are town wide events. Everyone comes to see the game even if they don't have children playing. Coaches can make 80 thousand a year. The teams go to games on tour buses and they don't play on fields near the school. They play in stadiums with booths for the announcers.
Don't get me wrong not everything about Texas is bad. Men are very nice in Texas. They hold doors, tip their hats, call you ma'am or darlin, offer to help you carry your groceries to your car and get things down from top shelves. There is something to be said for a southern gentleman.
Like I said hopefully I will be home for good, very soon! Until then, "Honor the Texas flag; I pledge allegiance to thee, Texas, one and indivisible." Yup they have their own pledge of allegiance too.
Texas
It is Hot! Not warm or kind of sunny. Everyday is blazing. Don't turn on the hose and run your hands under it if it has been lying in the sun because it will give you third degree burns, kind of hot.
Thunder storms and tornadoes! Last week I had to leave my office and sit in a room with no windows for 40 minutes because we had a tornado touch down across the street from our building. The thunder is so loud it sets off car alarms and shakes your windows. Lightening strikes are common. We had a man die on a lake a week ago because he did not get off the lake fast enough and lightening hit his fishing rod.
"Turn around don't drown." This saying is repeated over the radio and television each time we have a storm. Rain condenses on the road so much that it will sweep a Dodge Ram pickup off the street. People drown on their street because they got out of their car when it got stuck in the rising water.
Emergency Broadcast SystemThe deafening tone that in MA we often turn down, actually means something in Texas. If you hear that tone you need to get your ass off of any ball field or lake you are on and find some shelter. If not you will end up like the man in the lightening story above.
Texas Shaped Everything. If you are eating a chip shaped like your state, then you must be in Texas. Bathroom sinks, house windows, trash barrels, candy, hair ties, pocketbooks. Whatever it is in Texas, it can be made into the shape of the state.
Words. A shopping cart or carriage is a buggy. A trash barrel is something on the side of your house. The small one under your desk is a basket. "Fixin to" means your about to do something. A "Whoppin" is something you give your child when they misbehave.
FootballHigh school football games are town wide events. Everyone comes to see the game even if they don't have children playing. Coaches can make 80 thousand a year. The teams go to games on tour buses and they don't play on fields near the school. They play in stadiums with booths for the announcers.
Don't get me wrong not everything about Texas is bad. Men are very nice in Texas. They hold doors, tip their hats, call you ma'am or darlin, offer to help you carry your groceries to your car and get things down from top shelves. There is something to be said for a southern gentleman.
Like I said hopefully I will be home for good, very soon! Until then, "Honor the Texas flag; I pledge allegiance to thee, Texas, one and indivisible." Yup they have their own pledge of allegiance too.
Saturday, February 17, 2007
Am I That Different?
I am beginning to think that there is something wrong with me. I have always felt different but there are many reasons why. One reason may be, being 4'11" with large breasts, but I manage. Now I am beginning to think I am not at all like other woman. I came to this realization after reading an excerpt from, "A Practical Handbook for the Boyfriend." This book was written by desperate housewives star Felicity Huffman. She has been married for 9 years to William H. Macy. She is obviously happy and maybe deliriously so. The things she advises men to do would drive me crazy but again as I said earlier I am beginning to think there is something wrong with me.
Public Display of Affection – According to Felicity woman are "hungry' for it and men wont do it because it shows their vulnerable side. I don’t think she has ever tried to walk down the mall or drive with someone's arm around her neck. She may not have witnessed two people eating each others face for lunch in line at the grocery store. I am all for passion but I do believe that sometimes a hotel room works better than a 7-11. One thing I do like is to hold someone's hand. It just feels nice.
The Little Things Count – the book advises that if a man buys junior mints and eats them all without asking if you want any, woman feel unloved. I have never felt unloved because my boyfriend would not share his candy. If I wanted candy I would ask him for some. If he said no, I would call him an asshole and buy my own damn candy. Why as woman do we feel that men should read our minds? This makes no sense. We are different in so many ways. I do agree that the little things do count. Putting clothes in the laundry, putting air in my car tire, holding a door now and then, these do count. Not doing them should not make a woman feel unloved.
Your Call is Important to us – According to Felicity you score "major' points by calling her two and three times a day. What??? In my world this makes you a stalker. Don’t call me two or three times a day. Don’t call me every day. Live your life a few days so when we do talk next we will have things to talk about. Are we that insecure that we need to hear our boyfriend's voice two or three times a day? Would we think he was cheating or leaving us if we talked to him two or three times a week? Does felicity work? Oh yes she is an actress. I know in my job if someone called me just to say hey that many times I would never get any work done. Come on am I alone on this one?
Great Boyfriends are Made – Practice makes perfect. I feel that you will be the boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife you should be, when you meet the woman/man you should be with. Loving someone helps make you want to do nice things. Having children has taught me that. Pouring a glass of soda and having to share it each time can be annoying unless you pour enough because you know someone will ask for that sip. I agree that practice makes perfect for both men and woman. I would really not want a guy to pretend to be nice only to end up unhappy. Be who you are. Do what you like to do. If the person your with is happy with those things then you are good together. If they get upset or repulsed each time then maybe it's not right.
She ends with," the secret to a good marriage is to stay a boyfriend." – This I agree with for both men and woman. Too many marriages are unhappy because people are taken forgranted. Everyone likes to know that they make someone else happy. This does not need to be an everyday mantra. Every now and then works great. Who does not like to hear they look or smell nice? We all like to know that we make someone else excited by our presence. As long as it’s the man your with and not the yucky guy at the package store!
So I may be different but when it comes to these things, I am kind of glad.
Public Display of Affection – According to Felicity woman are "hungry' for it and men wont do it because it shows their vulnerable side. I don’t think she has ever tried to walk down the mall or drive with someone's arm around her neck. She may not have witnessed two people eating each others face for lunch in line at the grocery store. I am all for passion but I do believe that sometimes a hotel room works better than a 7-11. One thing I do like is to hold someone's hand. It just feels nice.
The Little Things Count – the book advises that if a man buys junior mints and eats them all without asking if you want any, woman feel unloved. I have never felt unloved because my boyfriend would not share his candy. If I wanted candy I would ask him for some. If he said no, I would call him an asshole and buy my own damn candy. Why as woman do we feel that men should read our minds? This makes no sense. We are different in so many ways. I do agree that the little things do count. Putting clothes in the laundry, putting air in my car tire, holding a door now and then, these do count. Not doing them should not make a woman feel unloved.
Your Call is Important to us – According to Felicity you score "major' points by calling her two and three times a day. What??? In my world this makes you a stalker. Don’t call me two or three times a day. Don’t call me every day. Live your life a few days so when we do talk next we will have things to talk about. Are we that insecure that we need to hear our boyfriend's voice two or three times a day? Would we think he was cheating or leaving us if we talked to him two or three times a week? Does felicity work? Oh yes she is an actress. I know in my job if someone called me just to say hey that many times I would never get any work done. Come on am I alone on this one?
Great Boyfriends are Made – Practice makes perfect. I feel that you will be the boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife you should be, when you meet the woman/man you should be with. Loving someone helps make you want to do nice things. Having children has taught me that. Pouring a glass of soda and having to share it each time can be annoying unless you pour enough because you know someone will ask for that sip. I agree that practice makes perfect for both men and woman. I would really not want a guy to pretend to be nice only to end up unhappy. Be who you are. Do what you like to do. If the person your with is happy with those things then you are good together. If they get upset or repulsed each time then maybe it's not right.
She ends with," the secret to a good marriage is to stay a boyfriend." – This I agree with for both men and woman. Too many marriages are unhappy because people are taken forgranted. Everyone likes to know that they make someone else happy. This does not need to be an everyday mantra. Every now and then works great. Who does not like to hear they look or smell nice? We all like to know that we make someone else excited by our presence. As long as it’s the man your with and not the yucky guy at the package store!
So I may be different but when it comes to these things, I am kind of glad.
Monday, January 01, 2007
Thursday, December 28, 2006
2007
So Christmas is over and the new year is on its way. What will the new year bring? I am on my way to losing the 50lbs I want to loose. I am hoping to be home by June or August the latest. Will 2007 be a good year? Who knows. My hopes are high but according to my friends I am an optimist.
Sunday, December 03, 2006
The Journey
A poem written by John McLeod states that, "It's the journey that's important, not the getting there!" I have never thought about this same concept more than I have this past weekend. I have come to realize that on my journey lately I dont feel like I am driving my car. I am being driven and I am lost.
This past weekend I attended a Leadership conference for the company where I work. This is a very large Fortune 500 company with a lot of opportunity for growth and promotion. Being there this weekend I met several colleagues who work at their career. I dont mean they work at their job. They work at their career. They network. They go places they know senior management will be and introduce themselves. They talk about their recent success stories and make themselves known. They volunteer to be on committees and boards to not only help others but for some self promotion as well. They work at their career. I dont do this at all. I go to work everyday for long hours and I do a good job. I always thought, in a naive way, that you get noticed and promoted this way. This is really not the case. So the question I found myself asking this weekend was, do I want to make business, my career? If I do then am I willing to work at my career?
The other great love in my life is baking. I love to bake. I am not just a "Mom baker." Someone who bakes cookies for the PTA. Nothing wrong with this baker at all, in fact that is how I got my start. I love to bake rich cakes and tortes. If the recipe looks complicated then I want to try it and change it. I have recently been thinking of opening my own bakery. I would like to leave my job and use my 401K funds to start this business. On my recent business trip I drafted a beginning business plan and began to see what all of this would take to complete. It is a very lofty goal. It will take more money then I have saved and it will take every ounce of my time. Still this is something I think I want to do at some point.
To add more complication, I still would like to move back home. The good thing is I can still stay with the company I work for now and move back home. They have offices all over the United States. I can also move home and find a very busy location for my bakery. I am also in a difficult point in my personal life. My life lacks passion, in all forms. I lead more of an apathetic existence and I dont like it at all. This is not what I thought my personal life would be like 13 years ago. I need to make some changes to find passion in my life again. I know myself well enough to know that without it, I will never be happy.
So, "It's the journey that's important, not the getting there!" I am not sure what I have learned so far on this journey but I am hoping that somewhere a light will shine and let me know that I am headed down the right path. I hope not to be too lost for too long.
This past weekend I attended a Leadership conference for the company where I work. This is a very large Fortune 500 company with a lot of opportunity for growth and promotion. Being there this weekend I met several colleagues who work at their career. I dont mean they work at their job. They work at their career. They network. They go places they know senior management will be and introduce themselves. They talk about their recent success stories and make themselves known. They volunteer to be on committees and boards to not only help others but for some self promotion as well. They work at their career. I dont do this at all. I go to work everyday for long hours and I do a good job. I always thought, in a naive way, that you get noticed and promoted this way. This is really not the case. So the question I found myself asking this weekend was, do I want to make business, my career? If I do then am I willing to work at my career?
The other great love in my life is baking. I love to bake. I am not just a "Mom baker." Someone who bakes cookies for the PTA. Nothing wrong with this baker at all, in fact that is how I got my start. I love to bake rich cakes and tortes. If the recipe looks complicated then I want to try it and change it. I have recently been thinking of opening my own bakery. I would like to leave my job and use my 401K funds to start this business. On my recent business trip I drafted a beginning business plan and began to see what all of this would take to complete. It is a very lofty goal. It will take more money then I have saved and it will take every ounce of my time. Still this is something I think I want to do at some point.
To add more complication, I still would like to move back home. The good thing is I can still stay with the company I work for now and move back home. They have offices all over the United States. I can also move home and find a very busy location for my bakery. I am also in a difficult point in my personal life. My life lacks passion, in all forms. I lead more of an apathetic existence and I dont like it at all. This is not what I thought my personal life would be like 13 years ago. I need to make some changes to find passion in my life again. I know myself well enough to know that without it, I will never be happy.
So, "It's the journey that's important, not the getting there!" I am not sure what I have learned so far on this journey but I am hoping that somewhere a light will shine and let me know that I am headed down the right path. I hope not to be too lost for too long.
Sunday, October 22, 2006
All About Eve
Height: 4'11
Build: Yes, just kidding, Athletic
Eyes: Brown/green
Hair: Dark brown
Hobbies: Reading Running and Baking
Favorite TV Show: CSI, Law and Order SVU and CI and The Daily Show!
Favorite movie: Before Sunset
Favorite teenage book: Brave New World
Favorite story: Paradise Lost
Favorite poet: Shakespeare
Favorite artist: Georgia O'Keefe and Salvador Dali
Favorite saying: Tomorrow the sun will rise
Place I want to visit: France, Italy and Ireland
Vacation spot: Disney (I have never been)
Favorite actor: Nicholas Cage
Scariest movie I have ever seen: Silence of the Lambs
Favorite vegetable: Broccoli
Favorite drink: Diet Pepsi, Kendall Jackson Vintage Reserve Chardonnay
Favorite snack: Chips and queso
Favorite food: Chicken marsala
Food I make best: Chocolate ganache layer cake
Favorite place to sit and think: Horseneck beach
Future goal: To run a half marathon
Where you want to be next year: Massachusetts
Music I listen to: Sting and Evanessence
What I cant get in Texas: Good seafood and good chinese food
Favorite swear: F**k Off
Favorite perfume: Beautiful by Estee Lauder
Favorite piece of jewelery: Bracelet
Best present received: My Grandmother's diamond
Stupidest thing I have done: Pretend my car was broke down to get a date with a cute construction worker. Not getting my degree because I got married.
What I wanted to be when I grew up: A Cardiologist
What I am: Not a Cardiologist. Call Center manager
What I like most about my body: My legs
What I like least: My mid section
My personality: Quiet and serious
Thats me
Build: Yes, just kidding, Athletic
Eyes: Brown/green
Hair: Dark brown
Hobbies: Reading Running and Baking
Favorite TV Show: CSI, Law and Order SVU and CI and The Daily Show!
Favorite movie: Before Sunset
Favorite teenage book: Brave New World
Favorite story: Paradise Lost
Favorite poet: Shakespeare
Favorite artist: Georgia O'Keefe and Salvador Dali
Favorite saying: Tomorrow the sun will rise
Place I want to visit: France, Italy and Ireland
Vacation spot: Disney (I have never been)
Favorite actor: Nicholas Cage
Scariest movie I have ever seen: Silence of the Lambs
Favorite vegetable: Broccoli
Favorite drink: Diet Pepsi, Kendall Jackson Vintage Reserve Chardonnay
Favorite snack: Chips and queso
Favorite food: Chicken marsala
Food I make best: Chocolate ganache layer cake
Favorite place to sit and think: Horseneck beach
Future goal: To run a half marathon
Where you want to be next year: Massachusetts
Music I listen to: Sting and Evanessence
What I cant get in Texas: Good seafood and good chinese food
Favorite swear: F**k Off
Favorite perfume: Beautiful by Estee Lauder
Favorite piece of jewelery: Bracelet
Best present received: My Grandmother's diamond
Stupidest thing I have done: Pretend my car was broke down to get a date with a cute construction worker. Not getting my degree because I got married.
What I wanted to be when I grew up: A Cardiologist
What I am: Not a Cardiologist. Call Center manager
What I like most about my body: My legs
What I like least: My mid section
My personality: Quiet and serious
Thats me
Wednesday, October 04, 2006
Can I be a Senator
Alcohol has been a topic of discussion between my friends lately. It seems that Mark Foley has also been having some of the same discussions. Apparently he is an alcoholic. His alcoholism has caused him to send instant messages and emails to a 16 year old Congressional Page. Alcohol has on occasion caused me to drunk dial an old lover and re-proclaim my feelings, but that about the extent of it. This morning it was also announced that Mr. Foley had been molested as a teenager by a clergyman. This abuse he claims has also contributed to his inappropriate behavior with a 16 year old boy.
I understand that alcohol and abuse can have detrimental effects on a person. I believe that physical, emotional, sexual and mental abuse can lead someone to drink to excess. My concern is that he has come out with an array of reasons why he did what he did. He has not yet come out and said that he did it and what he did was wrong. There is no responsibility. I truly don’t care if he has factors that contributed to his behavior. It does not excuse his actions. It does not make me feel bad for him and wish him well. It angers me.
I am also angry about the fact that he is not treated the same as everyone else. He could have been on Dateline's "To Catch a predator." If he was then he would have been arrested on the spot. The only thing he did not do was send naked pictures of his genitals to this boy and he had not yet set up a meeting. Although he asked for a meeting. When I grow up I would like to be a Senator so that all my transgressions can be overlooked. What it comes down to is that this 52 year old man was wrong. He was in every way wrong. This was not an adult. This was a 16 year old boy. He needs to answer for his actions and be held just as responsible as any other person in this same situation would be held.
I understand that alcohol and abuse can have detrimental effects on a person. I believe that physical, emotional, sexual and mental abuse can lead someone to drink to excess. My concern is that he has come out with an array of reasons why he did what he did. He has not yet come out and said that he did it and what he did was wrong. There is no responsibility. I truly don’t care if he has factors that contributed to his behavior. It does not excuse his actions. It does not make me feel bad for him and wish him well. It angers me.
I am also angry about the fact that he is not treated the same as everyone else. He could have been on Dateline's "To Catch a predator." If he was then he would have been arrested on the spot. The only thing he did not do was send naked pictures of his genitals to this boy and he had not yet set up a meeting. Although he asked for a meeting. When I grow up I would like to be a Senator so that all my transgressions can be overlooked. What it comes down to is that this 52 year old man was wrong. He was in every way wrong. This was not an adult. This was a 16 year old boy. He needs to answer for his actions and be held just as responsible as any other person in this same situation would be held.
Monday, September 18, 2006
Birthday
My oldest daughter turns 13 tomorrow. I thought I would compile a wish list for her. These are things I hope she accomplihes in her life as well as things I hopes she avoids. 13 is only the beginning of some very tough years. She is very smart and very pretty. She is artistic and moody and likes rock music. I hope that the next few years are fun for her. I hope she makes it through her teenage years with as little pain as possible.
1)Graduate - This should be a given for her but I felt the need to put it out there.
2)Go to college - I am big on education and life long learning.
3)Live on your own - Find out who you are and what you believe.
4)Support yourself - Realizing that you can survive alone is a powerful thing
5)Find a friend - Have one person in life that knows you like no other.
6)Experience passion - Mental, physical, and emotional. Find what excites you and makes you feel alive.
7)Challenge yourself - Never settle and say "its good enough." Push your limit.
8)Be yourself - Dont let others decide who you are. Remember your beliefs.
9)Be strong - Physically, mentally and emotionally. You will be tested
10)Avoid drugs - Life is just hard and this just makes it harder
11)Love - Experience love in all forms. Be open to the oppurtunity to love
12)Validate those in your life - Remember to thank those who love and support you
13)Question authority - Power is not always righteous
14)Walk away - Know when something just wont work, is over or is bad for you.
15)Value yourself - Know that you are wonderful because you are.
16)Read - See the world through others. Relax and enjoy yourself.
17)Do something just for you - This will help keep you happy.
I am sure there are many more I can add. If you have a good one, add it.
To be less poetic I hope she does not marry until she knows herself. I am in my 30's and I think I finally know who I am and I think I just got to this point. I hope she finds the man that she loves completly and who loves her just as much. If she never finds this love, then I hope she never settles for less. I hope she never lets anyone beat or degrade her. I hope she has many experiences in life so she will know what makes her happy. I hope she travels and experiences other cultures and places. I hope no one in her high school class dies. This pain is great. I hope she finds one person who no matter what happens in life will be there for her. I hope she loves that person and realizes when she takes that person forgranted. I hope she knows how much her mother loves her and that no matter what, I am here.
1)Graduate - This should be a given for her but I felt the need to put it out there.
2)Go to college - I am big on education and life long learning.
3)Live on your own - Find out who you are and what you believe.
4)Support yourself - Realizing that you can survive alone is a powerful thing
5)Find a friend - Have one person in life that knows you like no other.
6)Experience passion - Mental, physical, and emotional. Find what excites you and makes you feel alive.
7)Challenge yourself - Never settle and say "its good enough." Push your limit.
8)Be yourself - Dont let others decide who you are. Remember your beliefs.
9)Be strong - Physically, mentally and emotionally. You will be tested
10)Avoid drugs - Life is just hard and this just makes it harder
11)Love - Experience love in all forms. Be open to the oppurtunity to love
12)Validate those in your life - Remember to thank those who love and support you
13)Question authority - Power is not always righteous
14)Walk away - Know when something just wont work, is over or is bad for you.
15)Value yourself - Know that you are wonderful because you are.
16)Read - See the world through others. Relax and enjoy yourself.
17)Do something just for you - This will help keep you happy.
I am sure there are many more I can add. If you have a good one, add it.
To be less poetic I hope she does not marry until she knows herself. I am in my 30's and I think I finally know who I am and I think I just got to this point. I hope she finds the man that she loves completly and who loves her just as much. If she never finds this love, then I hope she never settles for less. I hope she never lets anyone beat or degrade her. I hope she has many experiences in life so she will know what makes her happy. I hope she travels and experiences other cultures and places. I hope no one in her high school class dies. This pain is great. I hope she finds one person who no matter what happens in life will be there for her. I hope she loves that person and realizes when she takes that person forgranted. I hope she knows how much her mother loves her and that no matter what, I am here.
Saturday, September 16, 2006
Angry
Recently I have seen a new side to myself. I am not 100% happy about this side. Last weekend I was, angry. Everyone right now is saying, "so what you were angry." Why make a big deal about being angry. Everyone gets angry. To be honest that really is not true for me. I am not an angry person. I don’t fly off the handle and become irate. I have angry friends. Look at the Piper and Veteran. These are angry men. I am more of a live and let live type of person. Very little affects me. In fact, there has only been one person in my entire life who has every angered me so much that I yelled obscenities at him.
For a while I thought something was wrong with me because I don’t get angry. People around me seemed angry over things I would talk about that really did not upset me, to the same degree they upset everyone else. I began to think that I did not care and that I was just going through the motions of living without feeling anything. This was not the case. In fact I found I really enjoy some things lately that I have tried. I began to realize that I am a pretty even tempered type of person and I am just very tolerant.
Well all that changed last weekend. For the first time in my life I threw something in anger. I picked up a cell phone, not mine, and I threw it down my hall. It hit the far wall and I picked it up and put it back on the bureau. I am not sure why after 30 something years in my life I got angry enough to throw something. I don’t know why and I don’t like it either. I go to the gym daily and I run and swim for an hour. I found that this helps me get rid of stress in my life. This is how I express myself. I don’t throw things in anger.
This has really bothered me. I am not obsessing and I will let it go. I am sure it wont happen again because of the fact that it bothered me. I just have to wonder why.
For a while I thought something was wrong with me because I don’t get angry. People around me seemed angry over things I would talk about that really did not upset me, to the same degree they upset everyone else. I began to think that I did not care and that I was just going through the motions of living without feeling anything. This was not the case. In fact I found I really enjoy some things lately that I have tried. I began to realize that I am a pretty even tempered type of person and I am just very tolerant.
Well all that changed last weekend. For the first time in my life I threw something in anger. I picked up a cell phone, not mine, and I threw it down my hall. It hit the far wall and I picked it up and put it back on the bureau. I am not sure why after 30 something years in my life I got angry enough to throw something. I don’t know why and I don’t like it either. I go to the gym daily and I run and swim for an hour. I found that this helps me get rid of stress in my life. This is how I express myself. I don’t throw things in anger.
This has really bothered me. I am not obsessing and I will let it go. I am sure it wont happen again because of the fact that it bothered me. I just have to wonder why.
Friendship
I have never been a good judge of character. This fact is reinforced in me each time I review the list of men I dated in my life. The list is not long but it is also not a who's who among the worlds greatest minds. I am very lucky for the good friends who I do have that can spot trouble a mile away. They are usually the ones who send up warning flares that this new person I am trying to befriend, is not the person I think they are. Some of my friends have even gone to extreme measures, like freezing me at a beach for hours, drilling into my head reasons why my new friend is not all that great. Iris Murdoch, a novelist, said, "There is no substitute for the comfort supplied by the utterly taken-for-granted relationship."
As I left work on Friday I thought of this saying and how much I missed those in my life who supply that kind of comfort. There are few people in life that we meet, that stay in your life. You meet people who are fun, for the moment. You meet those who help you realize a dream or a help you complete a task. You meet those who make you better than you were before you met them. You meet those who you think are great, only to realize that you have been mistaken. It is a rare moment when you find someone who "fits" with you. Yet this is the type of relationship that is taken for granted most often.
My main "problem" is that I believe that people's intentions are pure. I believe someone when they say that they want to get to know me. I believe the person who says that they like talking to me because I like current events, sports and politics. I don’t see the agenda they hold, when so many other people around me see it clearly. I invest myself and I open up, only to realize in the end that my friends around me were right all along.
Thanks to all of you for shouting loud enough so I could hear. Thanks to those who just said, "don’t do it."
As I left work on Friday I thought of this saying and how much I missed those in my life who supply that kind of comfort. There are few people in life that we meet, that stay in your life. You meet people who are fun, for the moment. You meet those who help you realize a dream or a help you complete a task. You meet those who make you better than you were before you met them. You meet those who you think are great, only to realize that you have been mistaken. It is a rare moment when you find someone who "fits" with you. Yet this is the type of relationship that is taken for granted most often.
My main "problem" is that I believe that people's intentions are pure. I believe someone when they say that they want to get to know me. I believe the person who says that they like talking to me because I like current events, sports and politics. I don’t see the agenda they hold, when so many other people around me see it clearly. I invest myself and I open up, only to realize in the end that my friends around me were right all along.
Thanks to all of you for shouting loud enough so I could hear. Thanks to those who just said, "don’t do it."
Sunday, August 20, 2006
Bob
My dad, Bob, is a man of very few words. He does not show a lot of emotion and growing up he really let me, be me. I was a good girl. I did not get into trouble and he knew that. He trusted me. The only time he felt he had to give his opinion was when I began dating. My father had three daughters and one very successful son. Sorry Carol!
My sister, Carol, was the oldest. She was thin, blonde and very pretty. She began the dating thing for the girls of the family. My sister, Michelle, was next. She got married soon after she began dating and my father was very upfront about the fact that he did not like her selection. He was always very nice to my sister's husband but you knew he was not thrilled. I was next on the list to date. I was a little different because I was the youngest. I was also a little more endowed then the other girls my age. On top of that the majority of my high school friends were male. I got along better with men. I still do. I guess its because I like sports, I am athletic and I am not always real girly. Well my dad had no problem telling me how he felt about the men in my life. When I look back now it’s a wonder I ever left the house. Here's the break down. For those that might see this I am using initials so not to offend the actual people
TZ – Big football player who told my dad, not knowing he was my dad, that he wanted "a piece of that" before summer was over. We all worked together at a camp and Ted did not know he was talking to my dad. Needless to say that was not a good summer for Ted.
JB – Liked by my Dad. Said he was " a nice boy." He was the mastermind behind some car "decorating" in my teens but all in all a very nice boy. He is also now a really nice man. On of the few men in my life that I can say that about.
PD – Best friend to JB. I was crazy about this guy in my teens. According to my Dad he was "sneaky." So it was always me saying, "Hey dad I am going out with sneaky and nice boy tonight."
BG – Thought I was going to marry this guy. First serious relationship. My dad had no opinion of him. That was not good either. He said he could take him or leave him. He treated me really well and we were together for a while. I could still call and talk to him today.
MB – Liked by my Dad now, not all that liked as a teen. My dad called him "spinner." Not sure why but it had something to do with the fact that his eyes were always half open. Said he was always spinnin in his head. I laugh about this now because I was a pretty naïve teen and I did not know what he meant. I do now. This was the bad boy that for some reason otherwise intelligent woman are drawn too. I could not get enough of MB. He would drop his girlfriend off at home and come and pick me up. We did doughnuts in the snow and stole street signs. He carried me over his shoulder back to his car at Dave's beach, because it was raining. He had seats in his El Camino that spun all the way around. As a teenage girl I thought he just wanted to hang out and be friends. Luckily for me I had another friend, AP, who new differently and saved me from MB. I still see MB and there's a part of me that still lusts after the bad boy
LB – Not liked by my dad at all. Said he was "spoiled." Said he was a nice enough guy but could tell he did not like to get his hands dirty. We broke up on Valentines night at a dance. We broke up because his friend DH said out loud, "wow your girlfriend has big guns." My boyfriends reply was "yeah I know." I looked at him, found MB and left the dance. That’s the only encounter I had with DH and I am pretty happy about that. Part of me loves MB for rescuing me from that night.
AV – Liked by both my mom and Dad. My mom said he would be "very handsome and successful" when he grew up. My Dad said he was a "stand up" kind of guy. As a teenager that was hard to believe because he was such a goofy guy. He made everyone laugh. He was president of the teen club. He was fun and great. Well they were right, today he is handsome and successful. Way to go AV.
AP – Best friend to AV. My best friend too. My dad has always said, "there's something about him." I'm sure that’s not a good phrase. He saved me from MB and has been my best friend for almost twenty years. Trust me when I say it took a lot to save me from MB. I was pretty set on spending some time with him. This is also the only person who I have screamed obscenities at in the rain barefoot in front of his house with his mother watching. I am sure like my dad she has her own opinion of me.
My sister, Carol, was the oldest. She was thin, blonde and very pretty. She began the dating thing for the girls of the family. My sister, Michelle, was next. She got married soon after she began dating and my father was very upfront about the fact that he did not like her selection. He was always very nice to my sister's husband but you knew he was not thrilled. I was next on the list to date. I was a little different because I was the youngest. I was also a little more endowed then the other girls my age. On top of that the majority of my high school friends were male. I got along better with men. I still do. I guess its because I like sports, I am athletic and I am not always real girly. Well my dad had no problem telling me how he felt about the men in my life. When I look back now it’s a wonder I ever left the house. Here's the break down. For those that might see this I am using initials so not to offend the actual people
TZ – Big football player who told my dad, not knowing he was my dad, that he wanted "a piece of that" before summer was over. We all worked together at a camp and Ted did not know he was talking to my dad. Needless to say that was not a good summer for Ted.
JB – Liked by my Dad. Said he was " a nice boy." He was the mastermind behind some car "decorating" in my teens but all in all a very nice boy. He is also now a really nice man. On of the few men in my life that I can say that about.
PD – Best friend to JB. I was crazy about this guy in my teens. According to my Dad he was "sneaky." So it was always me saying, "Hey dad I am going out with sneaky and nice boy tonight."
BG – Thought I was going to marry this guy. First serious relationship. My dad had no opinion of him. That was not good either. He said he could take him or leave him. He treated me really well and we were together for a while. I could still call and talk to him today.
MB – Liked by my Dad now, not all that liked as a teen. My dad called him "spinner." Not sure why but it had something to do with the fact that his eyes were always half open. Said he was always spinnin in his head. I laugh about this now because I was a pretty naïve teen and I did not know what he meant. I do now. This was the bad boy that for some reason otherwise intelligent woman are drawn too. I could not get enough of MB. He would drop his girlfriend off at home and come and pick me up. We did doughnuts in the snow and stole street signs. He carried me over his shoulder back to his car at Dave's beach, because it was raining. He had seats in his El Camino that spun all the way around. As a teenage girl I thought he just wanted to hang out and be friends. Luckily for me I had another friend, AP, who new differently and saved me from MB. I still see MB and there's a part of me that still lusts after the bad boy
LB – Not liked by my dad at all. Said he was "spoiled." Said he was a nice enough guy but could tell he did not like to get his hands dirty. We broke up on Valentines night at a dance. We broke up because his friend DH said out loud, "wow your girlfriend has big guns." My boyfriends reply was "yeah I know." I looked at him, found MB and left the dance. That’s the only encounter I had with DH and I am pretty happy about that. Part of me loves MB for rescuing me from that night.
AV – Liked by both my mom and Dad. My mom said he would be "very handsome and successful" when he grew up. My Dad said he was a "stand up" kind of guy. As a teenager that was hard to believe because he was such a goofy guy. He made everyone laugh. He was president of the teen club. He was fun and great. Well they were right, today he is handsome and successful. Way to go AV.
AP – Best friend to AV. My best friend too. My dad has always said, "there's something about him." I'm sure that’s not a good phrase. He saved me from MB and has been my best friend for almost twenty years. Trust me when I say it took a lot to save me from MB. I was pretty set on spending some time with him. This is also the only person who I have screamed obscenities at in the rain barefoot in front of his house with his mother watching. I am sure like my dad she has her own opinion of me.
Saturday, August 19, 2006
Things I learned in Texas
I have lived in Texas for 2 years now. There are certain things in Texas that one coming from New England should know ahead of time. Consider this your warning.
1) Don’t drink from a garden hose in Texas. The water coming out of the hose will be Hot. Not just hot but make brewed tea, kind of hot. You will burn your grass, flowers and your mouth. Trust me I know.
2) Carrying Firearms – Texans can carry firearms and it is up to the owner of a store to post signs saying that guns cannot be brought in. True story. A man open fired on his ex wife and son outside of a court house after their divorce hearing. He killed his ex wife, injured his son and others. Another man driving by in his pick up truck (of course) stopped, shot and killed the man with the gun. The man driving the truck was not charged.
3) Pride – Texans have pride. Big pride. They put the star of Texas on their house and in mosaic on their driveway. The wear the Texas flag on shirts and say things like, Long Live Texas. In school they not only say The Pledge of Allegiance to the United States flag they say The Pledge of Allegiance to the flag of Texas. My daughters know it by heart.
4) Religion – The Texans I have met have been very conservative and religious people. They want prayer in schools. In fact, I attended a school committee meeting, where my oldest daughter was getting an award, and before the meeting began we all stood and prayed. What!!!! I was a little shocked. It was not just a general prayer either, it was a God Bless Jimmie and Sue prayer. Everyone there said a great big Amen.
5) Football – Next to Baptist this is the second biggest religion in Texas. High school football stadiums here rival Gillette stadium. The closest high school just installed a hundred thousand dollar press box for their stadium. People buy season tickets for high school games. My daughter is in 8th grade. Her schools football team has been fully outfitted and practicing from the first day of school. She will not have books in her classroom for another week. Do you see a problem!
6) Beauty – Texas woman are beautiful woman. They are very girlie and they dress wonderfully every where they go. They don’t run to Walmart in sweat pants after just getting up. They do their hair, make up and clothes before running to Walmart. Just a heads up for those woman like me who tend to run errands looking like I just rolled out of bed. You will meet your friends mothers and you may be embarrassed that you are not in full mother gear.
7) Men in Texas drive trucks. Big Dodge Ram pick up trucks. Leaving a rodeo one night I heard a woman ask the man she was with where he parked their car. His response was, "next to a truck." Needless to say they wandered around the field aimlessly for twenty minutes weaving in and out of all the trucks there.
8) Texas men are nice and are nice to woman. It took me a little while to get used to this because at first I kind of found it offensive. I have now gotten over that feeling. Men in Texas will carry your groceries to your car even if they don’t know you. They will help you get things from the top shelf in the store if you cant reach. They will call you darling and hon and sweetie. They will open doors and refuse to walk through before you. They say things like yes ma'am if they don’t know you. They will tell random woman how nice they look. They also wear belt buckles that you could harness the suns power with and boots and hats.
9) Jury duty is more serious in Texas. Hello we have the death penalty and in the words of Ron White, "we use it." I had jury duty two weeks ago. Both cases were felony murder cases. I was relieved that I was not chosen Maybe they heard my accent and said, "hell no."
10) George W is liked. That’s all I have to say on this one. Its self explanatory!
11) Phrase:
Fixin To - means that you are going to do something. Example, "I'm fixin to get me some lunch."
Down the road a bit – This could mean and hour or two away
Never wear a cowboys hat unless your prepared to try out the cowboy. I might have messed this one up but I was told this by a close friend as I went to reach for a mans hat to try it on my head. I stopped after that.
Road hard and put away wet – This refers to a horse. Not in my mind but oh well.
12) Sweet Tea. Sweet tea is the official drink of Texas. They also have chips shaped like the state. Bud makes a beer just for Texas and only sells it in Texas. Shiner Bock and Amber Bock. You can get the best Mexican, Tex Mex and barbeque in Texas.
So Come to Texas. Look me up. We can have a Shiner together.
1) Don’t drink from a garden hose in Texas. The water coming out of the hose will be Hot. Not just hot but make brewed tea, kind of hot. You will burn your grass, flowers and your mouth. Trust me I know.
2) Carrying Firearms – Texans can carry firearms and it is up to the owner of a store to post signs saying that guns cannot be brought in. True story. A man open fired on his ex wife and son outside of a court house after their divorce hearing. He killed his ex wife, injured his son and others. Another man driving by in his pick up truck (of course) stopped, shot and killed the man with the gun. The man driving the truck was not charged.
3) Pride – Texans have pride. Big pride. They put the star of Texas on their house and in mosaic on their driveway. The wear the Texas flag on shirts and say things like, Long Live Texas. In school they not only say The Pledge of Allegiance to the United States flag they say The Pledge of Allegiance to the flag of Texas. My daughters know it by heart.
4) Religion – The Texans I have met have been very conservative and religious people. They want prayer in schools. In fact, I attended a school committee meeting, where my oldest daughter was getting an award, and before the meeting began we all stood and prayed. What!!!! I was a little shocked. It was not just a general prayer either, it was a God Bless Jimmie and Sue prayer. Everyone there said a great big Amen.
5) Football – Next to Baptist this is the second biggest religion in Texas. High school football stadiums here rival Gillette stadium. The closest high school just installed a hundred thousand dollar press box for their stadium. People buy season tickets for high school games. My daughter is in 8th grade. Her schools football team has been fully outfitted and practicing from the first day of school. She will not have books in her classroom for another week. Do you see a problem!
6) Beauty – Texas woman are beautiful woman. They are very girlie and they dress wonderfully every where they go. They don’t run to Walmart in sweat pants after just getting up. They do their hair, make up and clothes before running to Walmart. Just a heads up for those woman like me who tend to run errands looking like I just rolled out of bed. You will meet your friends mothers and you may be embarrassed that you are not in full mother gear.
7) Men in Texas drive trucks. Big Dodge Ram pick up trucks. Leaving a rodeo one night I heard a woman ask the man she was with where he parked their car. His response was, "next to a truck." Needless to say they wandered around the field aimlessly for twenty minutes weaving in and out of all the trucks there.
8) Texas men are nice and are nice to woman. It took me a little while to get used to this because at first I kind of found it offensive. I have now gotten over that feeling. Men in Texas will carry your groceries to your car even if they don’t know you. They will help you get things from the top shelf in the store if you cant reach. They will call you darling and hon and sweetie. They will open doors and refuse to walk through before you. They say things like yes ma'am if they don’t know you. They will tell random woman how nice they look. They also wear belt buckles that you could harness the suns power with and boots and hats.
9) Jury duty is more serious in Texas. Hello we have the death penalty and in the words of Ron White, "we use it." I had jury duty two weeks ago. Both cases were felony murder cases. I was relieved that I was not chosen Maybe they heard my accent and said, "hell no."
10) George W is liked. That’s all I have to say on this one. Its self explanatory!
11) Phrase:
Fixin To - means that you are going to do something. Example, "I'm fixin to get me some lunch."
Down the road a bit – This could mean and hour or two away
Never wear a cowboys hat unless your prepared to try out the cowboy. I might have messed this one up but I was told this by a close friend as I went to reach for a mans hat to try it on my head. I stopped after that.
Road hard and put away wet – This refers to a horse. Not in my mind but oh well.
12) Sweet Tea. Sweet tea is the official drink of Texas. They also have chips shaped like the state. Bud makes a beer just for Texas and only sells it in Texas. Shiner Bock and Amber Bock. You can get the best Mexican, Tex Mex and barbeque in Texas.
So Come to Texas. Look me up. We can have a Shiner together.
Thursday, August 17, 2006
Be Yourself
I am writing tonight to tell those young and old to be yourself. Live your life on your terms. If you want to dye your hair pink and wear combat boots then do it. If you want to spend your vacation reading, then spend your vacation reading. Do not live your life for someone else. Do not live your life the way you think others want you to live it. Live your life the way you want to live it. If you want a tattoo, get a tattoo. If you want to wear a mini skirt at 33 then do it. Life is way too short for regrets.
I have been faced with this reality in my own life lately. I have been touched by illness and death so much that I have reached this conclusion. Why are we spending the only time we have here doing the things that other people want us to do and being who we are not. For those of you that live life as yourself everyday, I applaud you! I have come across very few people like this and when I do they are usually happy people.
I know people who are gay and are living a straight lifestyle because thats what is expected. They are misreable. They make those around them misreable. I know people who hate their job but do it because it was expected of them. If you hate your job then take some steps to change it. Be happy because you only have one chance to be happy. If you are in an unhappy marriage then take steps to either fix it or move on. It is tough,yet easy to say but it is true. Only we control our own happiness.
I have been faced with this reality in my own life lately. I have been touched by illness and death so much that I have reached this conclusion. Why are we spending the only time we have here doing the things that other people want us to do and being who we are not. For those of you that live life as yourself everyday, I applaud you! I have come across very few people like this and when I do they are usually happy people.
I know people who are gay and are living a straight lifestyle because thats what is expected. They are misreable. They make those around them misreable. I know people who hate their job but do it because it was expected of them. If you hate your job then take some steps to change it. Be happy because you only have one chance to be happy. If you are in an unhappy marriage then take steps to either fix it or move on. It is tough,yet easy to say but it is true. Only we control our own happiness.
Sunday, July 23, 2006
A Few Things
I am very excited that I am coming home again in August. I am coming to pick up my children who have spent the summer with my parents in Mass. This summer break was a little more difficult for me because I missed my kids more this time than last year. They are having a lot of fun and I am glad they are there, rather than spending the summer in house while I worked 10 hour days. This visit is a little bitter sweet for me though because I know it is probably the last visit I will have at home for the year. It is very tough. I was upset the last time I left, but I think this time will be worse for me. I will try not to show it because of the kids but I will be sad. I would like to try and come home for Christmas but I am not sure if it will be a possibility because its expensive.
I have decided about my tattoo. I am going to get it where the bikini line meets my hip. It is going to be the letter T with a bat hanging from it. The T will be feminine and scrolled and the bat will be hanging upside down with closed wings. I decided to scroll and feminize the T because it points to the girly side of me. For those skeptics, I do have a girly side. My husband often times says out loud that I am not girly or feminine at all. This is just not true. I love to dress up, high heels, short skirts, jewelry etc... I like to be feminine. I also like to run, hike, climb rocks, watch ultimate fighting, and play sports. That does not take my feminity away. I consider myself well rounded. Sorry off track. So anyway the T will be for the girl side of me and the bat will symbolize the not so girly side. The fun side. I am hoping to get this done next weekend. I am just trying to find an artist here that is well known. My sister just got another tattoo. I cannot believe it. She got a butterfly on the inside of her right wrist. I guess she is far more fun than I ever knew!
Hippy Hollow - A nude beach in Austin Texas. This beach is a state run and maintained nude beach on Lake Travis. This beach is for gay and straight men and woman. I have gone to this beach a few times since last year. It is the most beautiful spot that I have seen in Texas. The beach is at the bottom of a large rock wall that you have to actually find your way down in order to get to the water. There are stairs but once you get to the first level of rock your on your own. I am writing about it because I am impressed with the woman that I have seen at this beach. They are all shapes and sizes and they truly are out there just enjoying themselves. They dont care if they are stick thin or heavy. They are just out there having fun in the water. These woman are young and old and their confidence is wonderful. I do not go nude at this beach. I go topless. I dont go all nude because as many of you know, I am always losing weight and working out but I am not yet satisfied with my ass. Maybe I will be satisfied one day but not yet. To all these woman who bare it all regardless, good for you! There are also woman there in their 60's who are so fit its incredible. I am not talking about the rich wives who are perfect because they paid for their beauty. I saw a woman last week who was perfect. As she climbed up the rocks to her towel I realized her breasts did not move. They were round and perfect. They were not real but who ever did them did a great job. I am talking about the woman yesterday who had to be sixty or older and looked as if she worked out every day. She looked her age but she inspired me to continue working out. I will not comment on the men at Hippy Hollow. Everyone knows that I am fan and it goes without saying that it makes for an interesting afternoon. All I will say is that men have no fear when they are there. They dont care if they are thin or not, short or tall, long or not. They run, play guitars, climb rocks and float without any concern.
Well that's it for now...
I have decided about my tattoo. I am going to get it where the bikini line meets my hip. It is going to be the letter T with a bat hanging from it. The T will be feminine and scrolled and the bat will be hanging upside down with closed wings. I decided to scroll and feminize the T because it points to the girly side of me. For those skeptics, I do have a girly side. My husband often times says out loud that I am not girly or feminine at all. This is just not true. I love to dress up, high heels, short skirts, jewelry etc... I like to be feminine. I also like to run, hike, climb rocks, watch ultimate fighting, and play sports. That does not take my feminity away. I consider myself well rounded. Sorry off track. So anyway the T will be for the girl side of me and the bat will symbolize the not so girly side. The fun side. I am hoping to get this done next weekend. I am just trying to find an artist here that is well known. My sister just got another tattoo. I cannot believe it. She got a butterfly on the inside of her right wrist. I guess she is far more fun than I ever knew!
Hippy Hollow - A nude beach in Austin Texas. This beach is a state run and maintained nude beach on Lake Travis. This beach is for gay and straight men and woman. I have gone to this beach a few times since last year. It is the most beautiful spot that I have seen in Texas. The beach is at the bottom of a large rock wall that you have to actually find your way down in order to get to the water. There are stairs but once you get to the first level of rock your on your own. I am writing about it because I am impressed with the woman that I have seen at this beach. They are all shapes and sizes and they truly are out there just enjoying themselves. They dont care if they are stick thin or heavy. They are just out there having fun in the water. These woman are young and old and their confidence is wonderful. I do not go nude at this beach. I go topless. I dont go all nude because as many of you know, I am always losing weight and working out but I am not yet satisfied with my ass. Maybe I will be satisfied one day but not yet. To all these woman who bare it all regardless, good for you! There are also woman there in their 60's who are so fit its incredible. I am not talking about the rich wives who are perfect because they paid for their beauty. I saw a woman last week who was perfect. As she climbed up the rocks to her towel I realized her breasts did not move. They were round and perfect. They were not real but who ever did them did a great job. I am talking about the woman yesterday who had to be sixty or older and looked as if she worked out every day. She looked her age but she inspired me to continue working out. I will not comment on the men at Hippy Hollow. Everyone knows that I am fan and it goes without saying that it makes for an interesting afternoon. All I will say is that men have no fear when they are there. They dont care if they are thin or not, short or tall, long or not. They run, play guitars, climb rocks and float without any concern.
Well that's it for now...
Sunday, July 09, 2006
Tattoo
Well it has been a long time since I have posted anything. Partly because I dont think anyone reads my posts. This time I thought I would give it one more shot.
For a while I have considered getting a tattoo. My concern was where would I get it on my body and what would I like to get. Figuring this will be with me for the rest of my life, I did not just want to run off and get anything slapped on. I wanted to get the tattoo put on my lower back. This was before every woman in America put her tattoo on her lower back. Those I work with refer to lower back tattoos as "targets" or "Whore tags." So to say the least, my lower back is now out of the question.
My sister has a tattoo on her left thigh. She has a very big tattoo on her left thigh of a fairy. It is very pretty but too big for me. She also has a pretty rose tattoo on her ankle in memory of my sister, Michelle, who passed away. We were both going to get the rose, but I did not make the appointment.
There is no pressure on me to get a tattoo, it is just something I have thought about for a while. I am the conservative one in my family so there is no surprise that I dont have one. The surprise came two weeks ago when my mother told me that my ultra conservative, architect, brother had gotten a tattoo. Apparently he got a Black Widow spider on the base of his neck. I was shocked and amused. It kind of makes me feel that my brother has a side to himself that he does not show to many people. I like thinking that Mr. Ultraconservative has some skeletons in his closet.
Now that my brother has one, and I have wanted one, it does make me feel like what am I waiting for. I live in Central Texas and there is a tattoo parlor every 5 feet. I save up to buy almost everything, so why not a tattoo. Well I am not saying for sure that I am going to get one, but I have pretty much decided that if I do get one it will be small and it will be on either my ankle, bikini line or hip.
So here is the chance for my friends to weigh in and tell me what they think. Sould I get a tattoo? If so, where on my body? If so what type? I have considered a bat. I like bats. Something cute but not cartoon like. I like the Bacardi Bat. I have considered the Japanese symbol for my name. My name is Japanese and means perfection (haha). It is two symbols but I would have to make them a lot smaller.
So post a reply and let me know. Maybe the next time you see me I will have a tattoo.
For a while I have considered getting a tattoo. My concern was where would I get it on my body and what would I like to get. Figuring this will be with me for the rest of my life, I did not just want to run off and get anything slapped on. I wanted to get the tattoo put on my lower back. This was before every woman in America put her tattoo on her lower back. Those I work with refer to lower back tattoos as "targets" or "Whore tags." So to say the least, my lower back is now out of the question.
My sister has a tattoo on her left thigh. She has a very big tattoo on her left thigh of a fairy. It is very pretty but too big for me. She also has a pretty rose tattoo on her ankle in memory of my sister, Michelle, who passed away. We were both going to get the rose, but I did not make the appointment.
There is no pressure on me to get a tattoo, it is just something I have thought about for a while. I am the conservative one in my family so there is no surprise that I dont have one. The surprise came two weeks ago when my mother told me that my ultra conservative, architect, brother had gotten a tattoo. Apparently he got a Black Widow spider on the base of his neck. I was shocked and amused. It kind of makes me feel that my brother has a side to himself that he does not show to many people. I like thinking that Mr. Ultraconservative has some skeletons in his closet.
Now that my brother has one, and I have wanted one, it does make me feel like what am I waiting for. I live in Central Texas and there is a tattoo parlor every 5 feet. I save up to buy almost everything, so why not a tattoo. Well I am not saying for sure that I am going to get one, but I have pretty much decided that if I do get one it will be small and it will be on either my ankle, bikini line or hip.
So here is the chance for my friends to weigh in and tell me what they think. Sould I get a tattoo? If so, where on my body? If so what type? I have considered a bat. I like bats. Something cute but not cartoon like. I like the Bacardi Bat. I have considered the Japanese symbol for my name. My name is Japanese and means perfection (haha). It is two symbols but I would have to make them a lot smaller.
So post a reply and let me know. Maybe the next time you see me I will have a tattoo.
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